He loves me, he loves me not! Are you sound familiar with this line? If yes, then you are in the right place. Most of the time, we keep this thought in mind about the other person, whether they like us or not. In this article, we will discuss some easy tricks to understand if someone likes you or not. There are science-backed tips for making yourself look more attractive, but if you listen closely, you might not even need them. That’s because a person’s voice will tell you about their feelings towards you, according to new research.
The study
In one study, researchers said that in the animal world, males lower their voice tone and pitch to exude physical dominance and to ward off any competitor, and also to look more sexually desirable to female counterparts. According to a study Department of Psychology at State University of New York at Albany, it was found that people who reported being more sexually active and experienced were found to have a more attractive voice by strangers.
And it seems most people will already know this. According to a study published in the Journal of Nonverbal Behavior in 2010, found out both men and women tend to lower their pitch if they find the person they’re conversing with attractive. However, some experts say the female will increase their voice if they find someone more attractive to strengthen their femininity.
Another Indication of attraction involves phonetic convergence, in which people attracted to each other start sounding similar even without knowing it. The similarities include everything from speech rate to tone. This can happen over months or years, or even sometimes in a very short span of time. According to a study by the Journal of Social and Relationships, it is suggested that people try to act and try to be more similar to the individual they’re attracted to.
A psychologist, James Pennebaker, Ph.D., says that we people like it when other people sound like us. According to his research, he says when the language of two individual matches – meaning they use similar prepositions, articles, pronouns, and more things in similar ways at similar rates – those two individuals are more likely to date each other. He further added, when two people are paying attention to each other, they start similarly using the language, and it’s one of those things that automatically happens to humans.
The research seems quite interesting, but what’s more important is that the results suggest a reality that’s not in our hands. Why? Because we humans make these changes without even knowing it, and we feel it’s quite a good thing. We don’t even have to try – our brains are already programmed to do what needs to be done when we meet attractive partners.
Final words
So, the research concludes that the tone, language, and behavior of an individual will tell us whether the other person is interested in us or not. If you’re seeing someone recently and they tend to lower their pitch whenever they’re trying to talk to you, well, it’s a probable sign that they’re interested in you. And if you’re seeing someone for a long time, and they start to sound like you, then there’s that you both are going to date. Well, now figuring out whether the person is interested in you or not isn’t a hard task.